To mix together, so that the things mixed cannot be separated or individually distinguished.
To mix together, especially in such a way as to form one product.
These definitions are found on page 6 of God Breathes on Blended Families Workbook.
The definition of “blend” is easy to understand, yet will take time and significant effort to accomplish.
Blending is a process. The people in the new family cannot be forced to do anything, much less made to become a part of your family.
But, your family can be a place that each person involved “wants” to belong to.
This process takes effort by both natural and new parents to create a loving, nurturing environment.
Blended Families are built --- one relationship at a time, the same way that God builds His Kingdom.
How does this happen?
By husband and wife working in unity.
Through loving, compassionate, and graceful parent and new (step) parent.
A spirit of adoption toward our new children, just as God adopts us as His children.
Keeping no record of wrongs. 1 Corinthians 13: 5b “…it (love) keeps no record of wrongs.”
Making your new family a healthy and fun place.
Establishing new traditions for your new family. Traditions “define” your family.
Ask yourself these questions: (Have your spouse do the same)
“Where would I want to belong?”
“If I were my new (step) child, would I want to connect my heart to this new family?”
“What am I doing to make my home a loving, caring, fun place to be?”
Am I doing anything that is pushing the children away from me, or away from this new family?”
“What can I do that might entice my new children to want to be a part of my life?”
“Have I told all the children now in my life that they are very important to me?” If so, are loving actions solidifying my words?”
“Have I excluded any family members from any family activities?” (All members should at least get an invitation to family activities.)
“What else can I do to make my new home a place where everyone wants to belong.” BE CREATIVE!
If you are doing all the right things, KEEP doing the right things. Consistency will pay off.
You are in process! Do not get frustrated!
Measure your success each day by the number of seeds you sow, not the results you expect!
Most of all, DO NOT GIVE UP!
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